Tom Daley

Mostly, my blog is about crochet. but every now and again I think I’d like to diversify my posts. This post is different to those I usually write but still close to my heart.

This week, Tom Daley, British Olympic champion who won  a bronze medal for individual diving, revealed he had a boyfriend. He didn’t say he was gay or bisexual  but did share his relationship in a youtube video.

This video resulted in much wonderful support for Tom. Sadly, as expected it has also lead to some verbal attacks and needless nastiness.

One thing that has shocked me some peoples (probably well intentioned) views on coming out and how unimportant it is. “It doesn’t matter that he’s gay” and “this isn’t something he needed to share” are comments that I’ve seen in a few places whilst stumbling around the internet.

I beg to differ. We are born into a world where everyone is regarded as being born heterosexual. This is just the way it is… not wrong… not right… just the way it is. So when I person realises that they are gay, lesbian,bisexual or trans they are faced with a monumental task. They will have to challenge what everyone thinks about them, reveal something really personal. This can be scary- there just isn’t anyway to be certain how people will react.

Tom’s video has resulted in lots of young gay people feeling inspired to come out to their families and friends. It has allowed many people to embrace themselves and who they are.  I know from personal experience how scary it is to know you are gay and to hide it from everyone. You feel like you are lying to everyone. Like you are ashamed of who you are. How wonderful that Tom, revealing he is in a same sex relationship, has helped so many people be authentic to who they are.

In my opinion coming out is truly accepting yourself. It’s finally feeling comfortable in your skin. It’s being honest and open. It’s being proud of who you are. It’s brave!

Congratulations Tom on being true to yourself and being a role model and inspiration to so many people.


Filed under Gay, musings

9 responses to “Tom Daley

  1. Shana Rae

    Personally it was no surprise, having lived in the gay community in Brighton for 6 years when I was young, I can generally tell what a guy is, I just want to hug Tom now because I think it’s so beautiful 🙂

  2. I agree with what you say. Thanks for sharing, It is a big thing for those who are gay and I would hate to think that people have to hide who they really are because society says it’s “wrong” to be gay or bisexual. I am glad you put your opinion out there to let everyone know that it is one of the biggest and scariest things admitting that your gay, I am sure you worry about how your current friends will react and I am sure you do find who your true friends are when you “come out” so to speak. I have never experienced this but I have friends who are gay and that’s fine with me, they are the same poeple, and I know this is not the same but I lost my hair (for a woman that is pretty awful) and I found out who my real friends were, some I knew but some people who I thought would be okay with it and support me didn’t that was upsetting! I lost my hair ot alopecia, now I heard this comment somewhere and it just sums it up ” Cancer brings sympathy, Alopecia brings ridicule” I hope you can see what I’m trying to say, sometimes the words won’t come to me, bu I just wanted to show my support on the subject x

  3. Huge respect to Tom Daley. In a far too homophobic world, he’s shown great courage.

  4. Sorry I’m a bit late Mark, but I’ve only just read this post and I just wanted to say how eloquently you expressed what most if us are thinking. Spot on…… xx

  5. I’m really late in getting on this. I’m one of the brigade that says ‘he didn’t need to make a big thing of it’. I have a gay brother and I suppose I’m used to it. I don’t think about a persons sexuality or gender. It’s no more a thing than my being heterosexual is… or at least, it shouldn’t be 😦 Alas, too many people don’t live in the world the same way that I do; one where it really is no big deal who you are, where what’s in your heart and mind is far more important.
    My little brother ‘came out’ to me some 27/8 years ago. I didn’t know what to say, not because I was shocked, but because it made no difference whatsoever to how I viewed him and I knew he was expecting a response, anything, other than what he got. I hadn’t suspected a thing, he had 2 kids, but I loved him and that’s all that matter then, and now.
    Reading through the other comments, I see now that Tom’s coming out will have helped hundreds, maybe more, people of all ages. I just wish we lived in a world where nobody needed to hide who they are in the first place.
    T xx

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